We’ve all heard the saying, “life is what we make it.” To me that saying is subjective. It totally depends on who you ask. In other words, life is how we individually see it.


If you spend all day looking at gossip sites, watching reality shows, and being in everyone else’s business but your own… well, if you’re happy at the end of the day; that’s all that matters. However, if you’re unhappy then you need a change. You need to do what satisfies your soul.

If an individual can find an outlet that fundamentally distracts from everyday life, yet can still handle business, and that individual is happy — that’s all that matters.

A person will try to make one feel as though they should live how they live. Through their lens. One has to live for them. Everyones path is different, and that fact has been lost. We all have a life to live. Are you good with the life you are living is the question.

Whether reality shows or sports, do these “distractions”  enhance our lives? Does any of it enrich or make us better people? There can be an argument made for both sides. In the same way sports can make strangers have a passionate conversation, so can love and hip hop; or so I’ve been told.  At the end of the day, the time spent watching whatever your visual vice may be, could have been time spent working on something that could make you money. But, we all need balance, and we all need an outlet from life’s rigors.

In my opinion, we as a people have been duped since the inception of tv. It has been used as an advertisement and thought control box. It’s easier to get your message out to the masses with one fell swoop, than it is talking to each individual person. I also realize that what this net neutrality may really be about. Because we the people have so many options due to the internet, because we are free to see what we want on demand — thought altering messages don’t always get to the intended target.

The Disconnect

Working class people, full of life experience and wisdom, are drowned out by the voices of the rich and famous. Yes, the talented —  and talentless people, appear to have everyday peoples attention because they’re on tv. The disconnect is real.

As much time as I’ve spent trying to get people to see the distractions aimed at us, it took time to realize some people want what I perceive as a distraction. Or maybe they don’t care. I no longer want to feel like the buzz kill. If what a person does makes them happy, let them do it. We all have to live our own life at the end of the day. These entertainers are here to make money, and someone has to watch them.

On the flip side to that, those who spend the most time lining the pockets of the famous, are usually unhappy about life. I’m speaking from my experience. I’ve known so many people who are unhappy about their life, or somewhat jealous of those who have the appearance of being financially comfortable; and have not done what it takes to approach those same heights.



People spend more time watching those with money than getting money. 





I’ve spent so many years of my life watching sports, and I’m no where as rich as some of my sports heroes. In other words, I’ve spent much of my life being just as distracted as the individual who likes to watch housewives of (insert city name).  So how can I chastise anyone for their life choices. Again, we all have a life to live.

The most ironic part about all of this is, if I were famous, I would simultaneously catch hell, and praise for these very thoughts.



  1. True. Who are any of us to judge how others choose to live. Plus, none of us WANT to be judged for how we choose to live. At the same time, I also think it’s important to critically think about what we’re choosing. Most of us don’t want to. We want to participate in something called “willful ignorance,” so we can continue to do things that are not in our best interest. Such a vicious cycle we’ve created.


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